There are certain songs that just resonate with you. Whether that song recreates a moment in time or is just one that you really like, these songs are the songs that helped create the person you are and were a constant companion in the journey called life.

Today we continue exploring those songs in my life and what they mean to me.   This is Those Certain Songs.

Today’s Certain Song is Not Ready Yet by Eels.

The Song:

Title: Not Ready Yet

Artist: Eels

Album: Beautiful Freak

The Lyrics:

There’s a world outside
And I know ’cause I’ve heard talk
In my sweetest dream
I would go out for a walk
Gut I don’t think I’m ready yet
Not feeling up to it now
Just not that steady yet
And I don’t need you telling me how
There’s some happiness
And my stone face cracks again
Maybe sometime sooner or later
But I don’t think I’m ready yet
Not feeling up to it now
Just not that steady yet
And I don’t need you telling me how
So if I leave my room
Don’t you tell me to lighten up
Maybe sometime sooner or later
But I don’t think I’m ready yet
Not feeling up to it now
Just not that steady yet
And I don’t need you telling me how

I don’t need you telling me how

Don’t need you telling me how

What it means to me:

The album this one comes from is certainly a favorite of mine.  It’s funny though, I didn’t really appreciate Eels and their music until much later in life.  Interestingly, E from the Eels wrote much of this album while dealing with some serious depression, something that I have dealt with for much of my life.

This song has always hit me as one that really describes the difficultly that just leaving the house can bring when you are slammed with anxiety and depression.  Sometimes just stepping through the door to the outside can be debilitating and for some, thankfully not me at this point, down right impossible.

One of the things that people with depression and anxiety hear on the regular are things like ‘you need to cheer up’ or ‘you are not positive enough’.  Just like E sings, sometimes just leaving your home is all you can do in the journey toward finding peace and, if people could accept that you sometimes can’t even fake happiness then maybe it would be easier to deal with.

The human brain is a funny one.  So many people equate depression as a temporary thing, or something that can be controlled.  Trust me, I wish it could be something controllable, or something that could be flipped on with a switch.  For those that do suffer from these debilitating things, I won’t try to tell you how you are to get over it.  It’s really not my place.  I am thankful that I have found my own groove that allows me to function in life and, that is really the secret to it, you have to find it for yourself.  Now, don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean you are alone, in fact, it is quite the opposite.  It means that when you are ready, you can make a difference in your own life.

For those who know someone who suffers from depression or any other thing like it, my best advice, just be there.  Seriously, that is all it takes.  Make sure that person knows that you are there if they need them.  I don’t mean bother them all the time, but invite them to things, make sure you reach out to say hello sometimes.  Just remember, if they don’t accept your invitations they are not being rude, they’re just not ready yet or just not feeling up to it now.  That doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate the ask.  Me, I have been blessed with someone who has made it clear that they are here for me no matter what, for that I consider myself lucky.

On a more serious note,  if you need to talk and don’t feel you have anyone to talk to, there is help to be found.  You can call the crisis hotline or even send a text to them via 741741.  Seriously, there are people waiting for you to reach out.  Remember that no matter what, you are never alone.

Some great resources to get help:

For Depression and other issues:

https://www.crisistextline.org/depression

Suicide Prevention:

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ (1-800-273-8255)

Or, just drop someone you know a line via social media or text.  Just remeber you are never alone.

Late to the Game 7/18/2020

By Jon Brion & Mark Everett
Not Ready Yet lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd. / Universal Music Publishing Group

Thanks for reading, I hope you enjoyed  Those Certain Songs.  If you would like to read more about music you can find my Music Reviews Here.

Additionally, I have a weekly series called Key Movies Of My Life that comes out every Thursday and also check out some retro tv goodness with the ongoing series Retro TV Reviews. 

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